Our discussion at our November meeting was centred around Compassion Focussed Therapy. We looked at a handout produced by positive psychology (available on their website, positivepsychology.com) entitled “16 Compassion Focussed Therapy Training Exercises and Worksheets”. Compassion Therapy was developed by Dr Paul Gilbert, a psychologist who believed that compassion, both self and other-focussed, could be the key to relieving intrusive negative feelings of shame and self-criticism. He is also the author of “The Compassionate Mind”, Constable, 2009 where he outlines his theories at length.
We all found the exercises on the hand-out interesting and relevant and agreed that one particular exercise stood out. This was the idea of creating “your ideal caring, compassionate image” and then fleshing out in detail how this image would feel and look and how it would operate in the world- we saw this as of value to ourselves as therapists and potentially to use with clients, especially those with low self-worth.
We had varying views on the usefulness of other exercises such as having a “safe” colour to use as well as an imaginary safe space to retreat to in our minds when anxious or threatened.
Some quotations to reflect on and states of mind to aspire to
‘’Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down”
“The things that have happened to you in your life are not your fault, but it is your responsibility to alleviate your suffering”
“Compassion is about choosing to be the best version of you that you can be”
(from suicide awareness/prevention)